Musings on Love...

butterflies

words turn to butterflies-
entering the womb of my heart,
carrying me through the day.
i can look outside and see
the grey sky no longer grey,
but filled with mystery.
even the clouds, and their usual growls
seem to carry new hope.
nurture, nurture, nurture-
the word means something new.
its a slow process to grow something
beautiful-
i must remember to
let it flow-
day into night, night into day.
as each new sun passes-
i will smile.
i will hope.
i will wonder.
i will nurture.
i will give it away-
and wait for your words to return as butterflies.

-sea

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mosiac heart

i'd rather break into pieces,
than break into his nothing-
at least then,
You could turn those pieces into the beautiful mosaic that's now my heart.
in my brokenness-
only You could create an artful repair.

the day is divine,
once learned nothing can go back to the ways of our memory-
nothing will ever be the same.
it would only be a tragedy if it were-
i wouldn't have this treasure You made-
my beautiful mosaic heart.

-sea

Taming the Un-Tameable

 

The first step to taming your hair is to put all guns aside and make peace with each and every out-of-place-tendril. This can be difficult, but its absolutely necessary in the taming process. I do this with other areas of my life and it actually works! I'm sure you're wondering what "making peace" with your hair looks like, and it will vary from person to person, but I've found verbal affirmation to be the most effective. I look in the mirror and soak it in. I say to my frizz, "I love you Frizz. We've been through a lot, you and I." I say to my cowlick that likes to make the back of my hair stick up, "I love you Cowlick. I'm sure its harder for you than for me." Lastly I say to my uneven and unmatching curls, "I love you Curls. You are a part of my DNA and I embrace each and every one of you."

See, the thing about beauty is that it comes along, hand-in-hand, with peace. You will never find beauty without FIRST finding peace. This applies to every aspect of life, though I'm keeping this post focused on your hair. So as silly as verbal affirmations sound, especially when directing them at your hair, it works. :)

After you start feeling the love, you can start workin' on it. I don't wash my hair everyday because its naturally curly, therefore naturally DRY, so I use a water bottle to lightly wet down my hair and put a little bit of gel in my hands and scrunch. With long to semi-long hair, you can usually just let it air dry or use a diffuser on low heat. If you have shorter hair, after using a diffuser, having a small-medium barrelled curling iron nearby will help with the locks that haven't curled up or still seem out of place. Sometimes, even after doing everything right, you hair could still be reluctant to be tamed, so in that scenario, find a cute headband, push your hair back out of your face, scrunch the rest and let your mane be wild. Make a statement that says YOU rock that hair, it doesn't rock you.

Now, on a side note, (though it applies to the "taming" theme) my lovely roommate introduced me to a product called "AnGEL" made by "DevaCurl". Its AMAZING!!!! Now, its not the least expensive of hair products, but it lasts a LONG time and its so worth it. Its 100% sulfate-free and designed specifically to work WITH your hair. Check out this link to learn more about the product and it also gives some awesome tips. You can also find a retailer in your local area that sells it. I've found that prices tend to vary between different places that sell it so you may want to do some homework. Whether or not you try that particular product, if your hair is frizzy, course, curly, wavy, or chemically treated, its important to find sulfate-free products because they are less harsh. You hair needs to be hydrated and enriched, not depleted and stripped.

If you have any questions or anything to add, leave me a comment! My homework to you this week is to MAKE PEACE with your hair.  You are beautiful and your imperfections are part of your perfection.

Smiles and love!

Locks of Love Donation Day!

On Sunday, October 24th, 2010 you can donate your hair to Locks of Love and receive a free haircut! Check out these guidelines to see if you meet the hair requirements and if  you cannot donate, check out other ways to help! 
The event will be held at: Ciao Bella Hair Design ---> click on this link and "Become a fan"!

                                 5072 Ferrell Parkway Suite 118

                                   Virginia Beach, VA, 23464

Please consider giving back- and help these young, brave survivors, regain any sense of self that has been lost.  Unfortunately my hair is far to damaged, chemically, to donate, but after learning more about how this organization affects the hearts of survivors and how much this head of hair I'm so vainly obsessed with could change the quality of life for someone else- I vow to no longer bleach my hair- grow out at least 10 inches and donate. Maybe you'll do this with me?? :)

Smiles and lots of love!!

The "Mane" Point

Your hair is NOT your identity. It doesn't make you the beautiful spirit you are. Your hair is NOT you. With that being said, let's talk about that mane of yours and how it has this insane ability to make or break your day....

It occurred to me a few months ago, when i considered calling off work because my scalp had a bad reaction to some hairspray, (causing flakes the size of Texas!!!) that I was in some serious trouble. My roommate, who happens to also be my hairdresser, got to see the ugly side of Sarah and the tornado of emotions and brushes that ensued.

"This is DISGUSTING!!! Look at me! LOOK AT ME!!!!!! What am I supposed to do?? I hate my life!!! Help me!!! Fix it!!!!"

Yeah, it was a low point in my life. Here I am, a 27 year old female who has a herniated disc, unmarried, financial struggles, constantly struggling with my weight and what causes my life to come to a screeching halt?? My locks. My name is Sarah, and I'm obsessed with my hair.

The first few steps to freedom:

1. Admit you have a problem
2. Shave your head
3. Just kidding about Step #2
4. Laugh at yourself

I will be devoting some posts on here to your hair. I live with a hair magician and I've had TONS of personal experience with my curls, so its my divine duty to share what I know. Feel free to share your own hair horror stories, tips you've picked up on the way, or questions you have. (even if I don't have the answer, I've got some good references and I WILL find the answer!) :)

So go forth! Enjoy the rest of your day! If you're not liking what your seeing on your head, wrap it up in a scarf or cover it with a fun hat. DON'T obsess over it and let it ruin your mood.

Smiles!!